Harassment has to stop!

We all have witnessed different debates on Sharmeen Obaid Chinoy’s latest issue. I am sure we have all given our opinions on this. The whole Internet took an active part and no one seems to be agreeing with the other. I did not choose to write on any of the forums because what I have seen was that people were too busy in degrading and belittling someone who does not agree with their point. Seeing all that I wanted to shout out loud my opinion. All I want to say is that there is a huge difference between the word harassment and molestation. How ignorant of us that we failed to differentiate between these two terms. It was literally very stupid of our people who kept on giving the remarks like she should have deleted the request or should have simply ignored it. My question is WHY? Why should one stay quiet about something that has made them uncomfortable? And what was more heart wrenching when it was women telling other women to stay quiet or ignore it. People need to understand that it was not a regular university fellow sending a friend request to his class fellow where she can say no and the problem is solved. It was his doctor who tended her a night before. Isn’t this creepy? 

             

                Unethical is illegal in any clinical setting.

Moreover, some of the ‘Keyboard Warriors’ are busy explaining and defining what is harassment and what is not. What ‘counts’ as harassment and what does not is to be felt and decided by the victim. Unwanted contact may/may not be harassment. That’s not for us to question against the victim.

All the male doctors in Pakistan should be very happy that it's only just one patient, and that too a sibling of a very influential person, coming forward with a case where her records were used by her attending physician later to trace her for what so ever reasons. I am happy that a lot of our doctors will learn a lesson from this and will not think of female bodies as their personal property to play with and I request everyone that if any of their doctors make them uncomfortable in any way, they should report them right away just like Sharmeen reported to the hospital. And she did not get him fired because of the harassment. It was the hospital that fired the doctor because of what he did was not acceptable for his profession.

All in all, it will take another century for our women to speak up against harassment openly. We live in a society where the victims are questioned and are mocked with disgusting memes.